As a leader, what do you really want?
The most recent meeting Sara* had with her manager became an instructive story. During our coaching conversation, her reflection on the exchange allowed her to make some deeper connections.
Recently she began to understand her core motive: “to be in control”.
She now understands how the core motive drives thinking, behavior, and ultimately performance. When aware of her “need to control” she can choose to be intentional…
Why control the impulse to “control”?
Last week, while group coaching a local doctor’s office staff, the subject of “control” came up. During the coaching, we were exploring how behavior puts people in a “box” when I made the statement, “Control is an illusion”.
One individual strongly questioned the statement. It appears we prefer the illusion, at a cost; perhaps it is associated with seeking “power”.
When it comes to “control”,…
How do leaders control their use of control?
Few people have the ability to throw a small round object over 6o feet within a defined 17-inch wide space somewhere between an individual’s knees and chest. The ability to place a pitch precisely in the strike zone earns professional baseball pitchers sizable contracts.
The tricky part of the “strike zone” is that it changes with each batter. There is no “automatic” strike zone…
What supports you doing what matters most each day?
Last week, I went to see Wendell. Riding the elevator to the 7th floor, I wasn’t sure what to expect. His wife Bonnie, his son Kent, and other family members were there, too. Wendell is one of those great individuals who loves life, loves people, and everyone loves…for the 92 years of his life.
A little over a year ago his…
As our java chat (i.e.-coaching conversation over coffee) continues she begins to confide in me when I ask, “What is your challenge today?” The bottom line: her growing disengagement at work. You might say “harmony” in the human interaction is missing in her experience with her manager.
