Her control-oriented manager was frustrated letting Sara know all that she was doing wrong. The emotion was equal to the frustration, “It’s a good thing I didn’t come to your office yesterday or I would have walked you out the door right then.”
Sara’s manager represents another hostage of “out-of-control” behavior….
As a leader, what do you really want?
The most recent meeting Sara* had with her manager became an instructive story. During our coaching conversation, her reflection on the exchange allowed her to make some deeper connections.
Recently she began to understand her core motive: “to be in control”.
She now understands how the core motive drives thinking, behavior, and ultimately performance. When aware of her “need to control” she can choose to be intentional…
